kozpink Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 Haveing a hard time excepting that youv'e gone from us my darling Roo its been a week today and it seams to be getting harder to be without you I miss touching you, smelling you and hearing your footsteps can anybody please help, does anybody know any good pet greif councilers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 17, 2006 Share Posted June 17, 2006 It is never easy, I put my childhood friend my dear cat to sleep over 2 years ago. We had lost pets before but having to make the choice to end her life was the hardest that I have ever done. (I have tears in my eyes typing) In away I was lucky, she had cancer so I had time to plan what I wanted to do but at the same time I was so scared that I would not cope. I found lots of great books on I think it was amazon.com and ordered them (When only The love remains by Emily Stuparyk or Goodbye, Dear friend by V Ironside). If you google pet grief you will find lots of great sites that do help. To me what helped is you need to find your own way to say good bye. I wrote my girl a letter thanking her for all the great times and help when i was growing up, she was cremated with this letter, a photo of her and I and a small cross. For weeks the box with her ashes sat on my bedside table and I kissed her good night still every night, she had fresh flowers every day. Something that I had planned to do but never did was make up a sort of scrap book about her. Her name was Whiskers but she had her little pet names as such, my nephew called her bickie and her fav food of all time was chocolate. These are things that I never want to forget. I have a print of her paw and plan to get a tattoo done of it. These are just some of my things but if they will help you then please use them. I know that my girl will always be with me, I may not see her but i still talk to her. It did take me along time to feel her there. If you are into alternate type things try an animal communicator. You can find one on www.greenpet.com.au or at least a link to one. You can then talk to your Roo. Even look at a book called The Daisy Sutra. One last thing that helped me was a dear little ginger kitten that did belong to a young girl across the road from out house that decided to move house. I worked out that he would have been born around the same time that my dear girl crossed over. He will never fill the gap that she left but I see a lot of her in him. He is hogging most of the chair that I am sitting on. Just know that you are not alone in your grief, it helps to talk and just because it is an animal you have the right to still remember her how you want, grieve how you would like and say good bye in your own way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 17, 2006 Author Share Posted June 17, 2006 Thankyou Sezy for all the info sorry to upset you about your dear friend whiskers and yes I know i'm not the only person who has lost a special heart pet, i keep telling myself that, just finding it realy hard to come to terms with not going to see her again, it was unexpected, was told it was not life threatning, we have more dogs in our care but thay are nothing like our darling queen Roo sorry i'm rambeling now thanks again for all the advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Don't be sorry. I will still often shed a tear when I think of Whiskers. I miss her but I was lucky to have loved her and been loved. Pets are very wonderful things and every so often there is a special one, I was lucky to have grown up with one and it sounds like you have been lucky also. You can ramble all you like. hehe I know that I love telling stories about my babies. Even if they are gone they will never be forgotten. So what was your roo like? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 18, 2006 Author Share Posted June 18, 2006 She was so special with a sweet but sometimes stubbern nature she would always except new furry friends & loved to cuddle up with me in bed, loved a belly rub and loved her food, she would hop around the house werever i would go We were lucky to ever meet our darling Roo (Roosie) saw her get hit by a car one night, the car didn't stop, I ran back to her she was in the middle of the road didn't even look like she had any life in her, I cuddled her as she went into shock she pulled through, on the way to the vet she gave me her first kiss, I will always tresure this memory. She had her front leg amputated so I was her crutch she went everywhere with us, we had her for almost 3yrs not long enough but such an impact the vet thinks she would be about 8 Got her wings way to soon I see her in my dreams I see her in my thoughts soooo hard to let her go would post a photo but can't look at them yet it hurts to much (big lump in throat) still have candle burning on her spot in garden my husband does this for me as I can't bear to go outside thanks again for all of your sugestions and for your time will post a photo when I can handle seeing her photo again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 19, 2006 Author Share Posted June 19, 2006 Our vet gave me a number for a pet loss greif counciler will give it a try love you my darling Roo still see you in my dreams still have a candle burning for you my darling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 Roo sounds very special. I would have liked to have met her.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 19, 2006 Author Share Posted June 19, 2006 Hi yes Sezy anyone that meet our sweet Roo always said how lovely she is she touched many hearts, all my family loved her Have had lots of pets before, but none like our sweet queen Roo Thanks Sezy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloud Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 I'm sorry for your loss I think a counsellor is a good idea. Make a special album for Roo with photos and notes of all her special little ways. It takes time, even though now it seems unbearable, gradually each week it will get a little less painful until one day in the future you will be able to think about her and remember the good times without feeling so sad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 20, 2006 Author Share Posted June 20, 2006 Thanks for your thoughts Cloud We have heaps of photos of our Roo, so when were ready, the albums a great idea, it will be hard to do but a nice thing to have. Just trying to keep busy now with our other doggies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Hi Kozpink, Have not been on for a few days so I just wanted to check how you were going? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 21, 2006 Author Share Posted June 21, 2006 Hi there Sezy Thankyou it means so much to me you asking. I'm up and down with my emotions, can talk about her more now (there goes the lump in my throat again) still hard when I go to bed at night, I'm used to touching her as a go to sleep. Did have one of my best days today, we rescued a lab boy from renbury, will only have him for a few days, till hes re-homed on the weekend but we do feel good being able to help him out, he's my therapy dog . Did get woken up today with one of my foster dogs coughing, and my first thoughts were, is Roo Ok then back to reality :D Still see her in my dreams, and still have candle burning for our sweet Roo. Maybe I'll get my OH to send you a photo, so you can see how sweet she looks? Thanks again Jodie (Pink) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 When you are ready send a pic. I have tried to attach one of Whiskers but it did not work for some reason. I might try again, nope did not work the file is too big. Will have to find a smaller file and try again another day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonniebank Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 I’m not much help to you Jodie. My thread is the previous one about my Pepper girl. I went to bed tonight but couldn’t sleep thinking about her so got up and checked the bridge forum to see if someone else was going through the same thing. I fed all the others tonight and then wondered why I had a bowl of food left over. Be brave for Roo. I’ll be thinking of you. It’s bloody awful isn’t it and just not fair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 25, 2006 Author Share Posted June 25, 2006 Can't beleive your not comming back my sweet darling Roo. We didn't have you for long enough, but when is it ever enough. Your got such a special soul darling Roo, please help mummy and daddy through this, missing you so much , always on my mind, wish you were here on my lap, going to go now and give Honey a big cuddle, she misses you to ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 I don’t know how to say this Not even sure if I should But I know in my heart If I had a chance I would I wanna say I’m sorry If I ever did you wrong I wanna say I’ve missed And loved you all along Words will never explain How much it hurt when you left I don’t know how else to say it You were the absolute best You were always there to listen And some how never wrong You never had a bad word And were always so damn strong I wish I had spent more time with you Pointless as this now I want you to know how I really feel Ill tell you someday some how I’m scared you’ll never know Just how great a pet you really are You may be out of reach now But you’ll never be too far Ill never get to hug you Or be the owner you deserve Ill make you proud and just like yours, A memory to be preserved. This was written by a 16 year old girl that I know, some sweet words I thought may help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kozpink Posted June 25, 2006 Author Share Posted June 25, 2006 Thankyou Sezy ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sezy Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 This is my beautiful girl. It has been 2 years and 4 months since we said our good byes but she will always stay in my thoughts and my heart. I was blessed to have loved her and been loved by her. [a tachment=42544:attachment] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonniebank Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 (edited) Thank you Sezy ;) Just look at her! She's obviously a "tickle tummy" cat! I know this is DOGZonline but my cats think they ARE dogs! (or is it the other way round???) Edited June 25, 2006 by Bonniebank Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonniebank Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 (edited) Coco the Burmese was surrendered to my vet. Not sure if she thinks she's a dog or Clancy thinks he's a cat. Edited June 25, 2006 by Bonniebank Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now