Leah82 Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I'm so sorry PD I'm not sure how you would go about telling your daughter but your probably right about leaving the doctor out of it. Could you tell her that he was just really old and his body didn't work properly anymore? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raineth Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 How heartbreaking for you PD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Avanti* Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I'm sorry PD, Take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gretel Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I'm so sorry PD I'm not sure how you would go about telling your daughter but your probably right about leaving the doctor out of it. Could you tell her that he was just really old and his body didn't work properly anymore? Yes that sounds good. She's too young to really know details. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yonjuro Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 (edited) Oh dear, I am so sorry. Maybe say to your 3 year old that doof is very old and tired now and he wants to go to sleep forever and have nice doggy dreams?? EDIT; Others have mentioned the sleep thing may not be a good idea and comments about this make sense. My daughter was 5 when our last dog was PTS from age related illnesses. We said that she was very old and tired and that she had now gone to doggy heaven where she could run around chasing rabbits My daughter was a bit upset but got over it very quickly. Sometimes she will mention about Tessi chasing rabbits but not in a sad way. Edited August 6, 2014 by Yonjuro Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kelpiecuddles Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I don't know where you stand with religion but we aren't particularly religious so our take on death is that when we are old we have to go to sleep forever and that we go in to the ground and our body and love feeds the plants and flowers to make the world a more beautiful place so that everyone can remember us. This comfort has helped ease the loss of many animals at our house. We always go to the nursery and choose a little plant which the kids put in the garden for the animal to help grow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HazyWal Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I'm so sorry PD Huge hugs to you all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dee lee Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 Oh PuddleDuck, I'm so sorry. I am hopeless with explanations like this with young children, some others have made good suggestions though. Just know that your daughter will bounce back pretty quickly. Much quicker than you will, I'm afraid. But time does dull that deep painful sorrow of saying goodbye. Thinking of you. D x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
huski Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 Very sorry to hear that PD, run free Doof Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kavik Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 So sorry PD When Zoe passed in Feb we were quite honest with the kids - she was old and sick. They did ask where she was and/or talked about her and her death for several weeks afterwards though, which was quite upsetting as I felt I was forever repeating that she wasn't coming home . I remember reading that you shouldn't mention sleep as it could make the kids scared to go to bed at night time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OSoSwift Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 So sorry to hear that PD With our kids we tell them fairly staright, but we do say Vet not doctor. We also do not say they are getting put to sleep as I have know of kids starting to worry if they went to sleep - or someone they loved went to sleep they would never wake up. We tell them they are very very old not just old as lots of people say theya re old when really they are not and once again kids start to worry people they know may die)and have an illness that the vet cannot fix. They will die, their heart will stop and then they will be gone. The kids watch us bury them so they know where they are - if you get them cremated then the kids also know where they are - and they know they won't be coming back. I did once have a 4 you son say to me when discussing Boris and the facr he was now gone that - NO mum he's just out there in the ground, we could dig him up. That caused some interesting conversation for curious minds. Young kids quite often get upset because we are but they don't really understand the sitaution and quite often go yep they have died but don't get hugely upset. They may miss them and get upset they are not there but don't actually get upset about the death. I find being as honest as possible in terms they understand and remembering kids are very literal and explaining it is the best way to go. I am thinking of you all, it is very hard no matter how unwell they are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PuddleDuck Posted August 6, 2014 Author Share Posted August 6, 2014 Thanks guys, and thanks as well for the advice. He's gone now and I admit to feeling a sense of relief that it's over. My wonderful vet was amazing. Kayla has asked for him a couple of times (we took him down during her arvo sleep while grandma babysat) but so far she's taken it pretty well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Spotted Devil Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 So, so sorry PD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JackieW Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 My condolences to you, RIP Doof Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
persephone Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 So sorry, PD - but he is now free from all that a failing body brings with it ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VizslaMomma Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 Thanks guys, and thanks as well for the advice. He's gone now and I admit to feeling a sense of relief that it's over. My wonderful vet was amazing. Kayla has asked for him a couple of times (we took him down during her arvo sleep while grandma babysat) but so far she's taken it pretty well. Hugs and love PuddleDuck dearest Doof! run free at The Rainbow Bridge/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katdogs Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 So sorry PD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staffyluv Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 I am so sorry PD.. RIP Doof... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiverStar-Aura Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 My condolences to you and your family PD. May Doof be in your hearts forever. Be at peace dear boy and run free in bountiful fields forever! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bundyburger Posted August 6, 2014 Share Posted August 6, 2014 Sorry PD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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