TessiesTracey Posted January 22, 2013 Author Share Posted January 22, 2013 I have no advice sorry but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.... Thanks Lisey x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loving my Oldies Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 I have no advice sorry but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.... Me too, No advice, just thoughts for you and your girl. Try to hold onto the fact that you are doing the right thing, even though it seems the most dreadful betrayal of the dog you love so dearly. She has a disease which will get worse and cause her pain and distress. :hug: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TessiesTracey Posted January 22, 2013 Author Share Posted January 22, 2013 I'm so sorry TT I was in a bit of a rush & somewhat distracted when I read & replied to your post yesterday - I didn't realise the mass was so large. Under the circumstances I think you have made the right decision. I do not know the location of the surgery or how it is set up but would the vet be amenable to giving Tess her wings in the car? Then it's just like going for one last car ride. Thinking of you & sending you strength & courage for tomorrow. No that's ok. See that's the kicker. The mass isn't that large from what we can see, but it has caused some looseness in the rear molar, so it's what we can't see that's of more concern to the vet (and us). I also just made the mistake (i say mistake because he almost put an element of doubt in my mind ) of speaking to Rod Straw at bvsc. Amazing guy and even offered to squeeze us in to see him, but further treatment is just not something we want to subject her to for HER sake I have to be comfortable with this decision and that's what I'm struggling to come to terms with i guess. Regardless of anything else this disease would take her in the end and it would become more uncomfortable for her. Going round in circles much! StaffnToller - not harsh at all. I'm going to call the vet now and ask about pain meds. I should also explain that he did say that we could have a referral should we choose to go that route,and on Friday when all this happened he didn't offer pain meds primarily I guess because he wanted to give us the weekend, a - to see how Tess went and b - to give us a chance to make a decision. In amongst all this I feel also that i should mention that it was our sons 21st birthday on Saturday, we'd got tons organised for that (which sounds really bloody selfish saying it out loud) and I only lost my Mum to metastatic breast cancer (spread to her brain & cerebral cortex) 4 months ago. It's been a rough ride. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TessiesTracey Posted January 22, 2013 Author Share Posted January 22, 2013 I have no advice sorry but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.... Me too, No advice, just thoughts for you and your girl. Try to hold onto the fact that you are doing the right thing, even though it seems the most dreadful betrayal of the dog you love so dearly. She has a disease which will get worse and cause her pain and distress. :hug: Thanks DD. that's what I'm desperately trying to cling to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tassie Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 Just wanted to say - whatever you decide, it's pretty clear you will be doing it in your girl's best interests - weighing up all the considerations. They give us so much - the least we can do for them is to help them out when life is, or shortly will be, painful and/or undignified. They don't know they're ill, or what's wrong with them, and we have the ability to let them go when they still have some quality of life. And as OSS and others have said - it never gets any easier, and we will often second guess ourselves, but we owe it to them. You know you have the support and the thoughts of this community. As I know from experience, that can mean a lot - only other dog people really understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HazyWal Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 I'm so sorry for all you have been and are going through. I had to make the same decision for my old boy and I knew in my heart it was the right one. Sending you strenghth and hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dogsfevr Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 Been offered no pain relief as the vet thought it would stop her from letting us know when she was in real discomfort . But tbh we have some unopened meloxicam left from a month or so ago and I've been giving her some. The discomfort she is getting is from the huge lump in her throat but I'm guessing the tooth and the cancer itself will be giving her pain too Your girl will tell you when on pain relief ,That is a weird comment from the vet in all honesty . Her pain may be very different already but the major sign with our girl for PTS was when the pain relief wasn't giving her any comfort .When that isn't working then you now its time . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebanne Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 Your girl will tell you when on pain relief ,That is a weird comment from the vet in all honesty . Her pain may be very different already but the major sign with our girl for PTS was when the pain relief wasn't giving her any comfort .When that isn't working then you now its time . Yes, when the pain relief stops working it's what shaped my views on what I would do next time (please let there not be a next time) and why I would always go earlier. Early is better then one second too late. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staff'n'Toller Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 I'm so sorry TT I was in a bit of a rush & somewhat distracted when I read & replied to your post yesterday - I didn't realise the mass was so large. Under the circumstances I think you have made the right decision. I do not know the location of the surgery or how it is set up but would the vet be amenable to giving Tess her wings in the car? Then it's just like going for one last car ride. Thinking of you & sending you strength & courage for tomorrow. No that's ok. See that's the kicker. The mass isn't that large from what we can see, but it has caused some looseness in the rear molar, so it's what we can't see that's of more concern to the vet (and us). I also just made the mistake (i say mistake because he almost put an element of doubt in my mind ) of speaking to Rod Straw at bvsc. Amazing guy and even offered to squeeze us in to see him, but further treatment is just not something we want to subject her to for HER sake I have to be comfortable with this decision and that's what I'm struggling to come to terms with i guess. Regardless of anything else this disease would take her in the end and it would become more uncomfortable for her. Going round in circles much! StaffnToller - not harsh at all. I'm going to call the vet now and ask about pain meds. I should also explain that he did say that we could have a referral should we choose to go that route,and on Friday when all this happened he didn't offer pain meds primarily I guess because he wanted to give us the weekend, a - to see how Tess went and b - to give us a chance to make a decision. In amongst all this I feel also that i should mention that it was our sons 21st birthday on Saturday, we'd got tons organised for that (which sounds really bloody selfish saying it out loud) and I only lost my Mum to metastatic breast cancer (spread to her brain & cerebral cortex) 4 months ago. It's been a rough ride. That's fair enough of him, it sounds like you've had lots to deal with recently. You may not even need to take her to the specialist. Often your Vet can call and have a chat about the case or you pay the cost of a phone/email consult in conjunction with sending the xrays to the specialist. Often this means they just concur with your Vet and give you a treatment plan, or they may have some other good ideas. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Shepherd mom Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Dear TT, I have no advice but just want to say I feel for you. We lost our Bella to haemangiosarcoma 3 days before Christmas, though she was distressed on her last day at least she was not in pain. Her brain died minutes before the vet arrived, the final injection merely stopped her breathing. I will always be grateful that she went on her own terms without suffering and with her loved ones by her side. We'd also never been through this before. Whether you say your goodbyes now or in a few days/weeks time, you will still feel dreadful. Let your decision be based on whether you believe Tess will improve and whether she is suffering. Are you able to speak to a doggy oncologist? What they tell you, might help you in making your decision. I'm also sorry for the loss of your mum. Sending you and strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dianed Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 My daughters b/c has cancer of the nose and he is on pain meds and is doing very well.He is even playing with the younger dogs, she knows its only time as his tumor is disfiguring his face but at the moment it is manageable and he is happy. I had a gsd with hemangiosarcoma of the spleen at age 8 and she lived till nearly 14. Far out living the expected survival rate I was given. Its not an easy decision to make, I feel for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trifecta Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 Dear TT Have been thinking of you & your family today. Hope you are OK. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raineth Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 TT, I hope you are doing ok. I've been thinking of you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebanne Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 like the others I have been thinking of you TT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TessiesTracey Posted January 30, 2013 Author Share Posted January 30, 2013 Thanks so much all. I've not been able to face the thought of coming onto the forum to talk about my girl until now and even now it's bl**dy hard. My heart is still breaking and tears are still flowing as I write this. After much much more agonising, we took our little girl to get her wings on Thursday last week. My head says it was the best thing for her, but my heart is still breaking. She went to sleep in my arms. Thank you all for your kind words & support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loving my Oldies Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 She went to sleep in my arms. A dog could ask no more. Sincere condolences - it is a very sad and hard time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisey Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Oh I'm so sorry to read this RIP Tess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeelerLove Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 RIP Tess. Very sorry to hear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HazyWal Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Rest easy Tessy girl. I'm so sorry TT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoofnHoof Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 RIP Tess, it's obvious she was well loved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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