Justice For K9's

[yap]

I,m just looking for answers, My heart can't take this, Should a so called vet be allowed to get away with murdering your child?-k9.

All the B*% did was handed me meds, told me to give extremely high doses & see me back in a week.

My child endured an extremely slow cruel exruciating death that no-body has been able to help us with justice.

Witnessing this, beleive me, my whole world is changed, AM I THE ONLY ONE?

When a real CARING vet should & will monitor CLOSELY & not send them home to die.

I am DESTROYED inside & out, ( I now know how those army guys come back traumitised a CHANGED person FOREVER) feel.

These B*% have destroyed good peoples lives forever & GET AWAY WITH IT & KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!! The vet board has turned a BLIND EYEGod I now just want to be with my girl.

My heart will give way soon, I can't do this.

OK. Yap, I can understand that you are very upset, and that you are grieving the loss of a much loved pet, under difficult circumstances. And I've been through some pretty tough times myself, and it wasn't a pet and the circumstances were extremely, soul destroyingly difficult.

Grief is a real, physiological response which you must work through one step and a time. Everyone does it differently. The good news, is that grief does end. This vet has not destroyed your life. Human beings have the faculty to overcome much more grief than this. You will smile again, in the future, when you are ready, IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF. If you feel your grief is not changing over time, and progressing, then with all the love and good will in the world, I implore you to get some help either from a counsellor or from a grief support group of some sort. Talking to other people who understand what you are going through helps immensely. This trauma is not the same as a soldier coming back from OS. Nor is it the same as losing a human child. I personally know a solder who had to clean up the remains of his best mate. Actually, a few of his best mates. And I know a couple who said goodbye to their 9 year old daughter at the roadside while she passed away before medical help could arrive. And these people are moving through their grief and on with their lives, as you must also do, in order to honour your beloved dog. You and they and I will never forget, but it will hurt less as time goes by. Would your dog want you to spend your whole life grieving? Or would they rather see you happy? You may never be the same again, but you will be stronger, wiser - and this is the special gift that your pet, that loving your pet, has left with you for your whole life. Embrace it, move through your grief and seek justice when you are stonger.

I just can't see an end to my greiving, I know Iwon't be able to see it now but when will it end

It'll end when you are ready. When you let it end, and when you have done the work. When you have allowed the grieving process to work. It will end. It should change. Day 7 should feel different from Day 1. Day 14 will be different again. If it is changing, then no matter how much it hurts, it is normal and you are ok. If it gets stuck, if the process stops and day 14 feels the same as day 5, then there is a problem and you do need help. The biggest thing for me, was giving myself permission to be happy again. That took about 2 or 3 months.

Keep a journal of how you feel every day, and every day try to do something to bring a little light into your life. A walk. Watch the sunrise. Do something physical. Physical movement helps incredibly. You go from being incapable of doing anything, to being able to eat, then perhaps you can spend a little more time out of bed. Brush your hair and get dressed properly every day. Go through the motions of life. Eventually it will start to feel a little less surreal. You won't want the company of people you don't know well for quite some time and you may feel disconected. I still do. But I have joy in my life again, and I am happy. I'm just deeper than some other people and I just can't related to some people. It's been 4 years.

One day, you might feel like being happy. Give yourself permission. You will shine again - brighter than before.

Thank you I will try to try. Thats even hard.

[yap]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

A dog is not a child but a dog can be as precious as a child. Mine certainly are.

Yap, this is a terrible thing to happen. But please see a grief councellor as others have suggested.

Yes oh so very very precious, How can I make a change in this world when vet boards turn a blind eye when the vets defenetly neglected.

I want to at least bring this info to attention in the newspapers without personal details, to make people aware we are being lied to just to keep these bad vets in practice. Its so not far to destroy humans live as well as our precious loved ones & keep getting away with it when clearly there was neglaect. If only australia had the laws US has. We would probably have an overload in the court systems.

It is very real for me with my precious.

[stormie]

Yap again I am sorry, but I must stress that the Vet Surgeons Board is very strict with matters of neglect. I am sure that if your vet did something wrong to result in your dog's death, they would not be turning a blind eye.

May I ask for what reason you feel that the dose of medication your dog was given was too high?

It may have been that your dog was just too sick and perhaps the illness was too much and was the reason your dog passed away, rather than the medication?

I just worry that you have misinformation which is leading you to think your dog died due to neglect, when it may be that everything possible was done however it just wasn't enough.

[raz]

It is very real for me with my precious.

Sure for sure. It's real for all of us to lose a dog. Hav you seen a Doc yet, matey? It will help a lot so might be best to make an appointment just so you get yourself sorted first.

Edited December 18, 2010 by raz

[yap]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

Sometimes our pets are all we have.

so right. they are all I have, they mean the absolute world to me.

The thing that people don't understand is witnessing these events that took place & the whole scenerio about the uncaring vet what he did & shoved us off knowing

my girl should not have left the drip. I can't go on anymore putting info up here. It rips me to bits. The justice still needs to be done one way or another. I know this agony is slowly killing me too, but i don't know anymore

[yap]

It is very real for me with my precious.

Sure for sure. It's real for all of us to lose a dog. Hav you seen a Doc yet, matey? It will help a lot so might be best to make an appointment just so you get yourself sorted first.

I have spoken to my doctor several times, He gets mad at me, I have spent $140 ph on phycologist few weeks & nothing has helped me. I tried meds but they didn't agree with me so I stopped & I don't trust meds anyway. The whole thing has effected my entire life. I,m just at a stand still. i'm on heart tabs also.

[stormie]

Yap there's no reason you can't put up basic information here. You don't need to mention any names. People might be able to explain things to you to help you understand and come to terms with what happened.

Feeling like your dog was killed by your vet is not going to be helping you.

[raz]

It is very real for me with my precious.

Sure for sure. It's real for all of us to lose a dog. Hav you seen a Doc yet, matey? It will help a lot so might be best to make an appointment just so you get yourself sorted first.

I have spoken to my doctor several times, He gets mad at me, I have spent $140 ph on phycologist few weeks & nothing has helped me. I tried meds but they didn't agree with me so I stopped & I don't trust meds anyway. The whole thing has effected my entire life. I,m just at a stand still. i'm on heart tabs also.

What a dreadful feeling.

Can you see someone else? What area are you in, honey?

[labsrule]

Oh for goodness sake. She's obviously hurting so why make out that one loss is greater than another. Give her a break!

Totally agree some of the posts are totally uncalled for .

Yap I am so sorry for your loss and I know how overwhelming grief for a much beloved dog can be . As one of the other posters said, there is no time limit on grief and I still grieve everyday for my beautiful 10year old black lab boy I lost to Cancer in Sep last year . I always knew when his time came, I would suffer immensely from his loss as he was very very special to me . His loss has been a huge struggle for me and I knew the grief could threaten to completely overwhelm me so I got myself a beautiful new lab pup a couple of months later, who has provided such a wonderful distraction and focus I so needed and he along with my wonderful senior lab boys have helped me cope with my immense loss. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my beloved boy and shed a tear for him and some days have been a real struggle, however, my pup/youngster has provided so much needed laughter and distraction and my older boys so much comfort that I don't/can't let the grief overwhelm me for all their sakes.

Obviously you have been traumatised by how your beloved girl died and want some sort of justice, but I fear the anger you are feeling towards the vet will eat away at you and you may not get the justice you seek. For your own health and peace of mind, let the anger go and take the time to grieve your beautiful girl and to focus on your wonderful memories of her, she deserves that I truly hope you find some peace

[Staranais]

Yap again I am sorry, but I must stress that the Vet Surgeons Board is very strict with matters of neglect. I am sure that if your vet did something wrong to result in your dog's death, they would not be turning a blind eye.

May I ask for what reason you feel that the dose of medication your dog was given was too high?

It may have been that your dog was just too sick and perhaps the illness was too much and was the reason your dog passed away, rather than the medication?

I just worry that you have misinformation which is leading you to think your dog died due to neglect, when it may be that everything possible was done however it just wasn't enough.

Yes, I had the same thought. It can be hard to think clearly when you're grieving. It can also be hard for someone without a medical background to understand what's going on in a hospital at the best of times, especially if they have a vet or doctor without great communication skills. But from what I know, the Vet Board (although it is composed of humans and therefore makes mistakes) doesn't deliberately turn a blind eye to negligence or incompetence.

Yap, I hope you find some way to come to terms with your loss. I'm sure with time, and perhaps professional help, you'll start to feel better and be able to move on with your life. Sadly, this is something that happens to us all - the pain caused by the loss of a dog is the price of all the wonderful things we get from them during their lifetimes. It hurts to lose them, but having had them is usually worth it.

[sallyandtex]

Please call Lifeline ASAP.

[persephone]

Yap...

Your doctor gets mad with you? Time to find a new doctor !!!

If you DO wish to pursue the legal side.. then you need to be healthy and be managing your grief.

To do this- you need a Doctor who understands..and one who respects what you are feeling.

Find another doctor-get healthy ... learn to TRUST someone else to guide you ...and when you are feeling stronger/more confident , THEN make your case.

I wish you strength and wide open eyes

[KOE]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

Very cruel and heartless response Oakway. We KNOW our dogs are not human children but they are our 'family' none the less. Most on here view their dogs as their furKIDS and we ALL suffer the same grief in losing a beloved pet as we do a human relative. There is also NO TIME LIMIT on grief.

Cruel, heartless, I don't think so. Cruel and heartless is when you lose your new baby son at 5 days of age.

But life goes on and we live on. Does Yap think think they are are the only ones to lose a beloved dog. We all lose them but we still get on with our lives.

Also what I said is the truth how do know that those words may be just the words to bring Yap out of this state.

Those words stand a dog is not a child and Yap needs professional help.

I have removed my post as reading further down I realize Yap is just heartbroken badly

reading between the lines I think she needs to come on here with dog lovers and people who understand her pain

and get full on support she needs

t is cruel and heartless, I lost my son at 3 months of age another that was dear to me at 18 I also lost my 13 yo Abbey ROad and my grief was no different , I grieved my sons and I grieved my old dog who was part of our child family. Yap you grieve all you need to but please go and talk to someone as well. I talk to my dear departed ones all the time, time heals but never does it forget. My heart goes out to you , please go and talk to someone.

[jacqui835]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

My dog is not my child, but I feel as though he is a part of my family and I do feel maternal towards him (in that I feel responsible for him, worry about him, want to look after him and make sure he has everything he needs and make sure he's a well-balanced and happy pooch) and love him more than I can easily express, so I can understand this. I do have a human family, a partner and friends but I would NOT be ok if my dog died.

I agree that you need to be speaking to someone to help you deal with the grieving process, lord knows I would, and even then I think it would be some time before I recovered.

I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened to you

[jacqui835]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

Sometimes our pets are all we have.

I feel extremely fortunate in that I have more than my pets, but let me say that at least in my case, this does not make the loss of either any easier. I have lost family members and it is devastating and debilitating. I can not think about potentially losing anymore family or friends, but I also can't imagine losing my dog - both would be severely damaging blows.

[7464]

It is very real for me with my precious.

Sure for sure. It's real for all of us to lose a dog. Hav you seen a Doc yet, matey? It will help a lot so might be best to make an appointment just so you get yourself sorted first.

I have spoken to my doctor several times, He gets mad at me, I have spent $140 ph on phycologist few weeks & nothing has helped me. I tried meds but they didn't agree with me so I stopped & I don't trust meds anyway. The whole thing has effected my entire life. I,m just at a stand still. i'm on heart tabs also.

Time to find a new doctor.

I'm sorry for your loss. It must have been such a shock. I can imagine you feel not only heartbroken at the loss of your beloved pet but also betrayed by the person who was supposed to heal your baby.

A dog is not a person, this is true but they leave a pretty big dent when they go. I know I'll miss my boy dreadfully when he's gone.

[dunnwarren]

Yap I feel your pain but you need to seek help now! I lost my hubby 10 years ago, thought at the time nothing would ever make me feel better again. I went to my GP and he admitted that things could have been done better by the specialist and apart from counseling he suggested I write the specialist a letter to tell him how I felt. Putting it down on paper was so much easier then having to face him. Write the vet a letter, tell him how you feel, even if you don't send it, it will make you feel better.

[aussielover]

Yaps, I am so sorry for your loss. Others have made some great suggestions to help you cope with this a bit better.

Sadly, mistakes do happen and if this vet has been negligent then you should certainly persue this issue as it could prevent others from suffering also. I think you are too emotional at this point to look at this rationally though and you should wait until you are in a better state of mind to persue this.

I agree with Stormie's statement though- the vet board do take these matters very seriously.