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When Your Head Says Keep Her But Your Heart Says Dont.


Kaffy Magee
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OK, my plan was to keep one male from my litters born in May. Ive kept 2, I have one girl on co ownership to get a pup back from her in the future and I have her full litter sister here, who I never planned for her to stay. I wanted her to go to a trusted show home with the same arrangement as the other girl. I had plenty of people wanting her but not in a position to take her on. So in the end I decided to place her in a pet home.

Ive found a wonderful home for her, they have fallen inlove and it would be the very best of homes. However, now I have numerous other breeders (and not just any breeders but top breeders in my breed) tell me, in short, I am insane for rehoming her. She does have a fault that stands out like dogs balls to me, however it is not a disqualifiable fault and they all think that its nothing to worry about as she is outstanding everywhere else.

I know she is a stunning bitch and a very sweet girl and logic says to keep her and rehome one of my boys but my heart is not in it, I just dont want her like I know I should.

I have one older bitch who I planned to breed in 2012 and keep a bitch from but as we know things can go wrong. I also know I may rehome one of the boys in the future anyway.

All three of my babies have done well at specialty shows in big classes, all placed at both specialties we have attended and both boys have won a baby in show and the girl opposite baby in show under specialist judges.

So do I go with my head or my heart? Not to forget that I feel incredibly bad for the poor people that had their heart set on her. Everyone told me "they'll get over it" "your breeding for yourself"etc etc, but Im not like that, I hate to disappoint anyone and I know if I was in their shoes I would feel very disappointed to get my hopes up and then let down. I have emailed them to let them know whats going on and they were very understanding but I still feel really bad.

Im going out of my mind with this decision. SO what would you do?

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Depending on the severity of her fault Kaffy, I would be keeping her. And also depending on your home situation.

There are no disqualifiable faults in Bm's but each fault as such should be considered.

And bred to a dog who otherwise excells where she may fall short must be a plus

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but will your heart be in it if you keep her on? Will you do everything - and be honest with yourself - in order to promote her to the full extent? Or will you see her fault everytime you look at her?

If she is not a dog you believe in 100% I would place her in a loving home that will have her as their beloved pet. There are many, many show quality pets out there - and that is ok, there are other ways of promoting your breed that don't involve a ring - and the fact of the matter is that we usually don't have the resources to run on every wonderful example of the breed (as much as we would like to).

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Personally, I think the difference comes in the fact that she is perhaps wanted/needed in a breeding program.

I've placed show quality "pets" in breeding homes in the past and the desired breedings have never eventuated because whilst the dog has been loved to within an inch of its life, the dog has been "spoiled" for breeding IYKWIM.

Based on past experiences now, if I cannot keep an animal myself and I REALLY need it in my breeding program, then it will always go to a like-minded show exhibitor who understands the value of the animal. Pet homes are fabulous.....FOR PETS.

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If she has a fault that stands out like a dogs balls & you have a wonderful pet home for her I would let her go.

Especially as you have said you don't want her like you should.

The perfect pup will come along & you will say no way is this one going anywhere. :rofl:

No one else can decide for you.

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have you offered them one of the boys?

will these people have her on breeding terms or are we talking waving good bye to the chance to breed on from her?

how much use would she be for the next generation you breed, as opposed to the males?

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