slk Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Am I being mean or rude by not liking my invited dinner guests to bring their dogs? We have a particular friend who we socialise with. Both having young families, we find it nice to get together at alternate homes and this years we have new years here. Nice and laid back but given the horrid heat here in Vic today we are pretty much staying indoors. Now here's the catch. They just assume their 9 month old pup. And I have issues ;) He is not housetrained so you need to watch him like a hawk. He has no matters (he jumps up, he playfully nips, he is allowed all over the furniture). All of these things I don't let my dog (past or future) do. We don't like animals on our furniture, our dogs have always had beds which is there sitting place and they always seem happy. But I'm a bit annoyed because I feel rude in calling her to say that perhaps the dog is best left at home but I don't think that I should have to do that - I think that common sense says that when you go to someone's house you leave your dogs at home. Or is that just me???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirty Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 My MIL takes her dog EVERYWHERE with her. She brings him here when she visits and he refuses to go outside. He screams and cries and scratches the door... So she lets him inside and he jumps all over my furniture and annoys my cats. My dogs are only inside at night and they aren't allowed on the furniture, so I think its bloody rude that she brings him! So no, I don't think you are being rude or mean. If they want to bring the dog, they should ask! I would never take my dogs to someone else's house unless they were invited! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teebs Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 No, not just you 9 months and not toilet trained? what are they doing? I dont mind if people bring their dogs here, but they must let me know first, and they have to be ok around my cats. If they are a puppy, i dont mind if they are not toilet trained, but as Adults they must be, and not mark!! I had a DOLer stay for a few days with her 2 dogs, and they were great, the only problem is one of them was scared of my cat ;) My dogs are also dog aggressive, I have the set up to keep everyone away from each other, but if you just showed up here, dont expect the dog to be welcome! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megan_ Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I would never take my dog unless he was invited or I specifically asked (and I always make a point of saying that I won't be offended if they say no). The only exception is my Aunt. After I got him we had a family lunch at her place. I asked if it was okay to bring him, I understood if she didn't want him there (she is not a dog person) and her response was: "He's part of the family now, of course he can come!". It is now expected that he is there and he even got invited to Christmas lunch. I didn't dare not bring him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirislin Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I used to take my first 3 whippets everywhere with me, but I always asked first. They were all very polite and quiet. I dont do it anymore because I have too many. Sometimes I go visiting with some of them, but again, I always check first that it's OK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
julesluvscavs Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I think it's only good manners to ask first weather it's ok to take your dog/s to someone's place ! The only place where we would take our Cavs unannounced is either of our parent places. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dogs4Fun Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I agree it is bad manners. I you can't stop her, can you set up a crate somewhere, so the dog can be inside, hopefully quieter than outside, and your house will be safe? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
persephone Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Dogs need to be invited specifically..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loraine Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Maybe as it is NYE and fireworks can scare the dogs you can let them bring him, but confine him to one place (bathroom, crate) I would also be telling them until he is housetrained you would rather they not bring him as it is not fair on your own dogs. I take my boy everywhere with me, but I ask first. He was NOT invited to the family christmas, so I just went for lunch and came straight home as he is now so spoiled that he kicks up when I leave him alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nannas Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I barred all people from bringing their dogs to my house. I had too many friends who would just bring them, then expect me to watch them and clean up after them. Most of the dogs/pups had no manners and would harrass my dogs and kids, who ended up locked in their rooms. (voluntarily) If we were going to be outside or something I wouldn't mind so much,,but inside is just no go for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ceilidh Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Oh my god! It is your house, just tell her not to bring the damn dog. For god sake people, these are animals, they don't have to go EVERYWHERE! If your guests can't leave the dog home alone then they should just stay home with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ons Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 i agree, dogs need to be invited specifically and I would only ask that person if they had a dog or knew they loved dogs, - even then i would assess the situation and maybe just take my male golden retreiver as he is quiet and well behaved when out visiting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooBooBear Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Never ever would I just turn up to someone's place with my dog/s without asking. If ever I have taken our dogs anywhere it's because they were actually invited to come :D :D . I have a similar problem tonight but not with dogs with kids. I'm going to a friend's place for a quite NYE dinner party, they have amazing views so we will watch the fireworks. So I was telling another friend that's what I was doing and the 2nd friend called the first friend (who know each other but aren't friends friends if you know what I mean) and asked could she rock up with her two brats (and I do mean BRATS - their behaviour is appalling to say the least) to watch the fireworks tonight? Ummmmm NO it's a private dinner party which you weren't invited to in the first place and we definitely don't want the brats coming! I found that very bizarre and incredibly rude ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dogsfevr Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 My friends would never ever turn up with there dogs . People who presume there dogs can go anywhere are truly selfish . Its your house either say no or put up with it,very simple Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glendabenda Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Yes they should ask first. I have a couple of friends that I don't need to ask (because they are always wanting her to visit) but every one else I do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erny Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Do you assume your dog is an invited guest? Heck no. I take my boy over when I visit my folks. They have plenty of yard room and he loves having a big romp and a ball game with Dad. I know that they always welcome him there, but without fail, when I'm on the phone to let them know I'll be dropping in, I always check it is ok to bring him along. He's an outdoors dog there too, as they don't have dogs inside their house. It's just a courtesy. And this is my folks!! Their home is like my home. But I still extend the courtesy to even them. I don't like taking people for granted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparkyTansy Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I don't take my dogs to anyones house unless they specifically say it's ok or ask me to bring them... the exception is my mum, and i always take Ari with me, and when my sister was living here, her house, again with Ari and sometimes James. I have the same issue with future MIL, who brings her two small dogs with her unannounced... one of them is ok and well behaved,but the other is incredibly dog aggressive and overly protective of the other... in fact it isnt just dog aggressive but also occasionally people aggressive i am sure it has some kind of mental issue as it has been that way since a pup. Anyhoo last time she brought them while i was at a show - came home with all the dogs to walk in and find them inside, on their own... Ari went ballistic and the evil one attacked her. Little girl got in the way and ended up injured and now my dog is the aggressive one still, if this stops her bringing them again all the better... the male has attacked my two boys before and it didn't stop her bringing them cos, as we all know, when a small dog attacks a big one, it's cute. :D evil little thing also left me a toy sized package to clean up after it left as well ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirislin Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 (edited) I used to have a friend who brought her dog everywhere with her. It was an awful spoiled aggressive GSD who used to attack my dogs if they went to drink in their own water bowls. It eventually bit me on the leg which led to the end of the friendship. The GSD she had before that one crapped all over my freshly steam cleaned carpets when I first moved here. All her dogs were obnoxious and she always took them everywhere with her. You need to do what I never did, set some ground rules before the dog does permanent damage to your house. Well I did actually set some rules, but it ended the friendship. I dont regret it though. Edited December 31, 2009 by Kirislin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlet Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I can't believe how rude some people are! I might take my dogs to a picnic at a park with a group of friends but I check first and then keep them on leash and well behaved. I have never taken my dogs into anyone's house - immediate family excluded but I know how they feel and they would tell me if there was a problem. Honestly ;) . If someone had a trained, approved companion dog that would of course be different - but trained is the key word. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlet Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 (edited) Gremlins Edited December 31, 2009 by Scarlet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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