Can I suggest a miniture schnauzer.... I have two one barks as a warnign bark and the other well she does not bark at all.. and it she does it is a rare occasion and it will be because she is feeling seriously threatened by another dog!!! They are fantastic with kids, I have neices and nephews ranging from 6 mths to 14 years and the dogs have never ever bitten or growled. One little girl is a total indoors dog and has to be encouraged to leave the comfort of her bed to sit outside.. and what is best of all they dont shed much hair at all... they only require a bit of grooming or you can go the option of keeping their coat short
I suggest if you need assistance with dog training to get your dog used to apartment living speak with someone like Aus dog, they have assisted me successfully with training of a couple of my dogs from puppy to adult behaviour problems....