Seren

Thanks to everyone who has just helped me now.. The lady rang me to ask if she would be holding the pup for me and I asked her for 15 minutes to finish explaining to my husband. I rang her back and got message bank so left a message. The I rang again about 10 minutes later and she said that she had already rang the other people not to come that the pup was probably sold.. I felt awful because as my husband said we had maybe a 50% chance that he would be the right dog for us and was it worth the risk at those odds. So I decided that I would say no to the lady. She was ok about it but I did think it was a bit premature of her to hold off the other people who were coming at 4 pm to look at him. I feel bad about it now, but if they were keen they would say they could still come look I would have thought. Well, that was my experience today hey.... I keep thinking that if Lace were here we wouldn't be going through this. But facts are hard things and the fact is that Lace is NOT here. But I must thank you all for your help. It would be crazy to take the chance and then if it didn't work out how would I go through losing another dog? I really better take a breather and think about it all more.... Thanks again

Mmm now I better do some homework hey... The seller said she will hold him for me til 4 while I make my decision.. He is actually in Sydney... so I would be buying from only a picture of him on Gumtree. He woud still be a good price with the travel costs to bring him up here. 4 is when then the next person in line will be going to see him. Maybe it is not a good idea to buy like this??

Hi, Hoping I can find some advice quickly... I am looking at a 10 month old (entire at this stage) male Labrador. He has been an 'outside' dog because the seller said he is too exhuberant to be indoors. I was wondering if anyone could guide me as to if I buy him would he be easy enough to trian to come inside potty-wise?? I realise I would have to go through the taking him out to do his business til he gets the idea. But am just wondering if anyone has found hiccups with an older pup like this?? I would be desexing him when he got here. Thanks hoping you can help me.. I have til 4 this afternoon to make my decision about him..

Thanks sarsaparilla adn Little Gifts, I think agony is losing your little one and not getting over it it is so hard Hugs to you too, you still feel sad for yours too, I feel for you

Thanks bianca.a, I appreciate all the help you have been to me. I just wish this would all pass, don't think I am strong enough. I feel like howling

It is morning again and I am still in agony... The dreams again and how sad and mixed up I am. I will have to look at getting another pup very closely I think, I dreamed I got Lace back. I am afraid to get another Golden. But then getting a Lab, I just don't know what to do and I wish my Lace were here and this was not happening Thankyou for your support everyone... Hugs to you too for understanding

You were NOT responsible for the accident. Any decent breeder should listen to your story with compassion and understand that you & your family may be that wonderful chance for their dog to have a happy furever home. Sad/bad things happen. That is life. For sure you coped the really raw end of the deal. You are not a bad person. repeat this: I am a good person and serve the Universe to send me another dog to love. Do this and smile as you think of all the good times Holly will have again soon. Thanks for the thumbs up, VizslaMomma, You gals do not know how much you have all helped me through this! It has helped me to have faith in myself again.

Yes, thanks kelpiecuddles. I have looked into the Goldens but feel a bit shaky about getting another Golden. I went to look at some pups last weekend and ended up crying. Not sure if I am strong enough

Lol, persephone.... you have made me smile just now! And that is good. I eagerly checked out your 'HERES' with interest - you found some I haven't. Just a bit worried about a male, my husband doesn't think a male would fit in. Do you think that a male would be okay? I know that Holly would be good - she just loves any dog at all. Then the last HERE - the female - I got excited about til I read needs 6 ft fence... But on the up side, It has made me feel more positive and I will go look into some other breed rescues for mixes and see if there are any Lab crosses there. One thing I have noted - there are so many sad stories out there! I am interested in your idea that a male would be a better choice too. That interests me as I had not considered a boy.

Thanks so much aliwake and Tapua, I have been busy checking out your helpful site, aliwake, and putting out the word that I am after a young female Lab..... But also worried that they may be reluctant to sell to me as I had a bad accident with Holly's mate as you would have read... Thankyou so much for your thoughts - yes, I cry a lot still about little Lace and I love her still with all my heart!! She will never be replaced that is for sure and I will never ever 'get over' what happened to her; but my heart would soon add another little fur bundle into it and love her for her own sake. I had looked at the Goldens in that site but not the Labs so your post has helped me very much thanks. Yes, Tapua, I have combed the Lab Rescue sites but all the Labs listed are getting on in years and I worry that Holly would annoy the life out of them wanting to play. She is still very active and playful and needs lots of games and walks at the moment to compensate. She has already put on weight not having Lace to run and play with. But I will keep looking...

That sounds worrying. I sure would be taking the little fellow to another Vet to have it checked out. I haven't heard of Labs having hearing problems but maybe a direct phonecall to a breeder locally would be of help. I have looked up a few breeders on the internet just typing Labrador Breeder Qld into google. Hope that the lady gets some answers, if not maybe have to brave it and ring the people who she bought him off and ask them did they know anything. Sad set of affairs whichever way as it would seem that the little fellow has hearing problems and that would be possibly a lifetime sentence. On that, it makes it hard what to do, he probably would go on to live a great life but would need monitoring for accidents because he can't hear a warning. I know that my little Lab lives by her ears.... they wiggle all the time she is awake. Good luck, I will keep watching this post for the outcome, hoping that this lady gets some answers.

Could someone guide me please. I am wanting to look into adopting a Lab or Lab cross about 13 months old to be a new mate for my Lab/Golden Retriever Holly. We recently lost her mate and I have thought about adopting a new companion for her. I have put my name down on as many Lab Rescue sites as I can find but wondered if anyone knows of a Lab needing a good home? Thanks,

Thanks so much VizslaMomma and Persephone, You have always tried to help me as much as you could Persephone, and I have appreciated it beyond measure. VizslaMomma, I have found another site where you can actually go onto a chat site and talk to others about your sadness and they are really supportive. It is petloss.com I go there quite often lately and have had a lot of support through talking there also. They have offered that maybe I didn't say a proper Goodbye to Lace. When we left her at the Vet I just hugged her close and said "See you soon little one" thinking that it was only going to be a simple procedure and she would be back home for me to nurse back to health. Then when it all went wrong she had been caged and in pain and fear(probably so scared and confused - which haunts me terribly) and she had shut down completely when we went to her. She just lay there with her head hanging, she had 'shrunk' and was needing a good brushing and had dull eyes. She didn't even acknowledge us, just lay there panting and giving out little whimpers. They said that I shouldn't remember this too often. Remember her when she was healthy and strong and very cheeky. With her beautiful new adult coat (which she had just gotten) all brushed and shiny; ready for her walk. It is hard at the moment to think of her like that because the last image of her haunts me all the time. My daughter has done a beautiful memorial video tribute to her but I haven't been able to watch it all the way through yet. They say that it all takes time. Thankyou for your support, I appreciate it very much. I just wish that the dreams would stop. I feel for you too VizslaMomma - it is very upsetting isn't it.

I am awake and crying again. Last night I dreamed that Lace is alive again. I have dreamed this nearly every night. But I can't get to her in the dream. Last night she was on the television in my dream but I couldn't find the channel to watch her and get her back. One other night I dreamed she was with a breeder and they wouldn't give her back to me. It just goes on and I wake up crying and exhausted. Does this happen to anyone else?? I feel so exhausted and sick.

Thankyou everyone for your support and prayers. The days pass really slowly now. We have just got in from taking Holly for a walk and I will go out and play with her before dinner. Today we brought Lace 'home' from the Crematorium. We have a lock of her hair and a gold paw pront and some verses about losing your beloved pet. I was dreading getting her today but it was good in the end - I have her lock of hair and the paw pront and certificate and her ashes to bury. I took photos with the flowers that we have been given and I hope that I can start to feel not so sad and upset soon. It is nice to know that you have all cared about Lace. She will always be my little star in Heaven, or as a good neighbour said to me: a little social butterfly in God's garden..... she was quite a little social butterfly that is for sure. Holly is still so sad. I think as time passes we might have to get her another mate to play with.

I miss the wagging golden tail, I miss the feelings words would fail, I miss the cheeky little smile, I miss the "Lets go play a while", I miss the wistful loving glance, I miss the circling welcome dance....

Oh, seren - thank you so much :) You must be feeling like I am this morning Persephone. The realization in the morning is very hard to bear. Thinking of you and hope that you are ok. I am having a cry about Lace.... May your little man be resting in peace too.

It is morning again... Another day knowing that Lace is not coming home. Hugs to Heaven to my Lace... Now I must go hug Holly and try not to keep crying

OH Persephone!! You are losing a pet too! I am so, so sorry to read this! My heart goes out to you as well. It must be very hard for you. Hugs and thinking of you right now. And rest in peace your dear little one.... so sad, take care

Thanks so much for all your help! I have appreciated it. We are now concentrating on keeping Holly from searching for Lace all the time. She just doesn't understand it all - we came home smelling like Lace but Holly couldn't find her with us. Holly is very clingy today. We went for a few walks to cheer her up and now she is lying on my feet. But we are trying to make things normal for her now. My daughter is bringing out her dog tomorrow and Holly just adores Heidi so that should help. We had Lace cremated at a Pet Crematorium and they give us locks of her hair, a golden paw print and a certificate saying how precious she is, along with her ashes to bury here. My only consolation is that she is now running again with her free spirit back, happy and healthy again. Thanks so much again

Thanks for your thoughts everyone. It means a lot to me that you all understand our pain and shock. It was a nightmare.

Thanks Labtested, We are now going to get our Lab/Retriever cross checked. I am not going to let her go through what Lace went through. She was so young. It has broken our hearts.

Thanks Persephone, Nothing went right. The other hip gave out. We talked and talked to the Specialist but all the time Lace was hanging her head and panting and whimpering. It was such a bad thing to see. We are devastated.

Thanks Bianca - nothing went right, it all fell apart. Her other hip would not support her. She was in so much pain.

Just not sure how to deal with this. Our Lace who was hit by the car 3 weeks ago, dislocating her hip, has lost her battle after all my seeking advice. Yesterday she went to Heaven aged 14 months. We will never forget her. She was my fur-baby. Holly looks for her everywhere. It broke our hearts into tiny pieces. We will mend but there will always be a very big scar. If tears could bring her back she would be right at my side right now.