Moselle

Mine waits for me to train the pups to stack and bait or have them going well as adults, then he rocks up to a show every six months of so, shows and wrecks a few dogs, for a few weekends in a row, then promptly returns to retirement. He must be getting ready to come back out, as he's been talking to Macy Wiggles about BIG's , for the last two weeks. Heaven help my poor Whippet. How does your OH wreck the dogs? lol

Training and instilling good manners is a must and I would NEVER leave them alone together when nobody is around.

Good for you

Congratulations!

Haven't read all posts but does your friend have allergies? if not....then the cavalier is my 1st recommendation as they are laid back and not too boisterous although they do shed alot. Maltese are also loyal and loving pets along with the bichon and neither shed.

Thank you Megan for starting this thread and bringing such an important factor to our attention, who would have known ?? This has been of immense help, kudos to you

My OH, as I mentioned before, isnt a dog person. But... he never complains about our dog and frequently says he is happy that she makes me so happy. :p Even with our previous, extremely difficult dog, he went out of his way to help me cope with her. He was amazing. Then, despite what must have been a very negative experience for him, he was very supportive of me getting our next dog. His only stipulation has been no dogs on furniture. That's no biggie. So aside from the fact that I cant "share" my dog with him, there is not much of a downside. I just am more aware of being totally responsible for my dog. Point is, not all non-dog people are incompatible with living with dogs. It can work. ;) Moselle, to be honest, I'd probably struggle with having 7 dogs in the house too. But then, I think I'd struggle with that many dogs, period! It does seem a difficult situation. I personally think dogs are best inside, but of your outside dogs are happy (and many are) I think its not a bad compromise to have your littlies inside. I would never have little dogs outside, no way......personally, I don't mind big dogs in the house on occasion either and that is where my hubby and I are at loggerheads, lol. He doesnt mind the small dogs in the house and seems to be accepting of the cavalier, judging from his attitude yesterday, even though she sheds big time. If all 7 dogs were small they would all be residing in the house and he would have no say about it but I kinda understand where he is coming from in not wanting big dogs in the house and I suppose, at the end of the day, I am thankful that I am not a slave to the dogs given that I am house proud. When I am working, I don't have the time to vacuum and mop floors on an every day basis and with large shedding dogs in the house that would have to be a must as I could not stand it otherwise. Edited to add that if all 7 dogs were small they would spend a vast amount of time in the house and allowed out to toilet and exercise, aside from that they would be by my side. When I work, my maltese and my chihuahua x are inside until I come home from work. I have trained them to do their business on a plastic tray lined with newspapers which, on occasion, my hubby cleans out for me.

I did not say that you do indeed have AD, I said that you are starting to show symptoms of AD, big difference. If you are not obsessive why on earth would you rehash this thread simply for the sake of it??? you didn't post anything, you simply set out to start controversy all over again. I am more than happy not to quote you any longer providing that you do the same! ! ! ! ! !

Ideally, I would love to have another two dogs in the house, not all 7 of them. As far as divorcing him over this matter......I don't think so as this is the only hitch that we have.....there is every possibility that your hubby may have qualities about him that I would baulk at, lol. I doubt it he is a fantastic husband which is why we are still together after 37 years He may be a fantastic husband Rusky but that is a matter of perception, in other words.....he may be the perfect husband for you but that isn't to say that every other woman in this world would find him to be as fantastic as you do, lol; I bet that he may have certain idiosyncrasies that may not appeal to other people; the same applies to every individual in this world, what suits one person doesn't suit the other, e.g. my friend's husband is the perfect husband to her but I know that I would not be able to put up with his ways, I find him totally irritating.

Aziah, you have rehashed this thread with the pure intention of starting trouble. I must say that you do have serious issues in unable to let go of a difference of opinion, you are starting to show symptoms of AD, just relax....take a deep breath, have a cup of chamomile, whatever makes you feel good providing it doesn't prove obsessive as you are doing right now.

Thank you Troy. It seems that Aziah is unable to move on and let bygones be bygones hence why she has rehashed an old thread of mine simply to try and create discord, when is enough ever enough? very sad....

...that explains alot then doesn't it. enjoy your "controlled" thread I can understand you putting several of us on ignore - it allows you some control back into your life As you already know, I had you on the ignore list because you, Raz and Reverend Jo are always making a point of twisting and blowing everything I say out of all proportions, such insidious nastiness....you really do have problems with letting go I don't need to have some control back in my life It's all a matter of not listening to your incessant crap because that's all it is, so much harping on about bullshit. You are so blantantly obvious in that you are determined to make things impossible for me around here and all because I don't believe in killing my own meat. you are the one getting posts from yesterday to have goes at people today why? ;)

OMG....that sounds great if you are of the same opinion but if my OH allowed wet & all dogs in the house I would be having a fit. what's another three sets of wet paw prints and wet dogs in the house. It's rained non stop for a week. It's just dirt and water and it will wash off. We've tiled our entire house from top to bottom and we simply chuck the lounges out and buy new one's every couple of years. I don't mind mopping but I hate washing walls Sorry OT but had to comment on the washing walls thing. Hate it, hate it, hate it. Wish the dogs would learn to walk through doors properly, too. ;) Yea, well....my dogs have learnt the art of walking through doors but my comment was based on a wet dog and no matter how well trained the dog in question is....the fact is that dogs do shake and just imagine the muck of a wet dog shaking, it would stick on wallks, furniture....you name it

...that explains alot then doesn't it. ;) enjoy your "controlled" thread I can understand you putting several of us on ignore - it allows you some control back into your life As you already know, I had you on the ignore list because you, Raz and Reverend Jo are always making a point of twisting and blowing everything I say out of all proportions, such insidious nastiness....you really do have problems with letting go I don't need to have some control back in my life It's all a matter of not listening to your incessant crap because that's all it is, so much harping on about bullshit. You are so blantantly obvious in that you are determined to make things impossible for me around here and all because I don't believe in killing my own meat.

i am quite confused with moselle's posts because they are often contradictory. makes it hard for me to know what one is the truth and which ones to believe You know only too well that there is nothing whatsoever CONTRADICTORY about my posts! You are another poster with an axe to grind :rasberry : You really need to do some serious growing up instead of harbouring grudges simply because of a difference of opinion.

I am compelled to ask you something.....are you dense or still not ready to build a bridge and accept the fact that I do not appreciate hunters Just get over it RJ. OOh yea, I wrote that post BUT I have also added MULTIPLE times that that is the only complaint that my hubby makes so therefore I do consider myself blessed overall. AMEN, lol. Where did I mention hunting My post is about your first post and my confusion over how you made a thread about something then halfway through when you didn't get the replies you wanted you changed your story? It was a big enough deal to make a thread about, to help you a bit I've bolded the bits that stood out to everyone. You even said you thought he'd leave you over it, I'm not making this up, you said it no one else did ;) Why would you say that I didn't get the replies I wanted I started a thread to see what other people's OH's are like. I don't have a problem with the responses at all, in fact I quite enjoyed reading through the posts. I haven't changed my story at all.....I just responded to 3 posters who insisted that my hubby is a control freak, just because he does not want more than 2-3 dogs in the house does NOT make him a control freak.

I am compelled to ask you something.....are you dense or still not ready to build a bridge and accept the fact that I do not appreciate hunters Just get over it RJ. OOh yea, I wrote that post BUT I have also added MULTIPLE times that that is the only complaint that my hubby makes so therefore I do consider myself blessed overall. AMEN, lol.

That's actually a great idea, have a man-cave built, you know, just a lined shed with electricity, a couch and a fridge. He can stay out there on agreed nights and you can have dogs on the bed. I have a Stafford that sleeps on the bed but since we went away she often prefers her crate on the floor, it's cooler at floor level and I would prefer it if she wasn't jumping down off the bed in the mornings now she is an old lady. The red-coat (Toller) would just have the locks changed while I was at work and take over the house if I EVER let him sleep on the bed so - we don't go there. He prefers under a table or bench or somewhere strange like that.... I can see how 7 dogs might drive him a bit batty..but the marks on the car/floor whatever as a constant would drive me nuts and I would have to tell him to stfu and get over it. SO I have learned from this thread that since I thought boys farting in bed was a given, and I don't really mind if the dogs are crated in the room...I am the perfect girlfriend!! Ah.....nope, I can't have deep and meaningfuls with dogs as much as I love them . BTW, he came home from work yesterday, walked in the door with cavalier following suit, lol. He didn't bat an eyelid, went to the kitchen with cavalier in tow, made himself a cup of tea for the both of us, came back to the loungeroom for a chat, cavalier sat next to him and occasionally got up to place her paws on his lap and he told her what a beautiful little girl she was He then went on to say that he would love to have her on the bed if she weren't shedding so much then went on to ask where I kept the brushomatic so that he could take responsibility in brushing the hair off the bed To say that I was stoked is an understatement, talk about coincidences.....oh, and he has no idea about this thread Oh...and to those two or three posters that are labelling him a "control freak"......you are laughable. After he had his cup of tea, he went out to check on the horses, gave them a carrot each and a couple of biscuits of lucerne each, fed the dogs some chicken frames, came back inside and cooked a mean vegetable lasagne with chips and a salad. He rang me from work at lunchtime to see how I was feeling as I told him that I had a headache that morning, he told me that I should take it easy and that he would be cooking the dinner and so he did, that is some control freak....and he did all of this whilst I was lying down on the sofa watching telly.

We have veto rights in this house. Everyone has the right to put their foot down if it's something that really matters to them. It works well because we don't use it very often. Sometimes something isn't vetoed, but so strongly discouraged that the other backs down anyway. A few years ago I got a stern talking to by some workmates for declining to go on a field trip to look for marsupial moles amongst other things because the OH didn't want me to go. The fact was, he was caught up with work and couldn't come with me and very much wanted to. He was honest and said I could go, but it would make him very disappointed that he would miss out. In some relationships it wouldn't be a big deal, but it is in ours. Dynamics are always different and we do practically everything together. My workmates couldn't understand why I was letting him push me around, but I wasn't. I was just listening to him, which is what people do for loved ones. Anyway, he adores the dogs and it warms my heart. He was resistant about getting the first one, worried about the commitment, but now they are like his kids. Right now he's telling Erik that he brings joy into his life and makes him happy. Awwww. I grew up in a house where my dad always fought my mum on any animal-related purchase and didn't even know how to feed them. I love that my OH shares their care with me. I do the grooming and training, but we take turns feeding and we walk them together. He pays most of the vet bills and I buy food and medication. He has even taught them a few tricks. That is what a good partnership is all about, being DOGMATIC about things is not conducive to a happy relationship. And you are right, everyone has the right to put their foot down when it comes to certain issues, that is the only and I mean the ONLY thing that he comments upon, that isn't something to be frowned upon as far as I am concerned; having said that.....there are a couple of things that I wasn't happy about and he did his best to accommodate my wishes

PhD-Master of Clinical Psychology and NO I am not kidding myself about my marriage at all. That is the ONLY disagreement that we have, that gives me reason to smile....and we do laugh and kid around a fair bit. In the field that I work in.....I heard more than my fair share as well as hearing stories from my friends.....and you know what? I consider myself very lucky indeed

Beautiful story Monah, gives one hope that all is not lost. I guess with patience I may end up winning with my hubby.

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OMG....that sounds great if you are of the same opinion but if my OH allowed wet & all dogs in the house I would be having a fit. what's another three sets of wet paw prints and wet dogs in the house. It's rained non stop for a week. It's just dirt and water and it will wash off. We've tiled our entire house from top to bottom and we simply chuck the lounges out and buy new one's every couple of years. I don't mind mopping but I hate washing walls I have vinyl flooring so keeping it clean is no big deal but the walls are another matter and it is hard to eradicate doggy smell esp of the wet variety.

OMG....that sounds great if you are of the same opinion but if my OH allowed wet & all dogs in the house I would be having a fit.