boo n poo

I'm glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better, and it sounds as though you and Joshua are getting off on the right foot for a wonderful relationship. You will always hold Moses in your heart, just as I do with Boo - but please don't ponder on the sad stuff. I feel very passionately about dogs, and I get concerned when i hear stories like your experience and wonder what happened next? It sounds like you made a very sensible move. I get a little emotional about this topic as I've seen what happens when people aren't as sensible and responsible as you.

"I have my suspicions who this Boo n Poo person is but I'll leave it at that." I have no idea who you are, so who do you think I am? If you read my latest comments, you'll know why I have responded. I'm sure you're feeling angry towards me at the moment, but hopefully that has given you a break from your despair.

I understand people do grieve in different ways. In the past, I have only accessed this site as a browser, reading all the wonderful stories about people and their loved pets/babies. After reading about this topic, I was compelled to comment on two things - both first hand experiences. I worked with a woman who loved her dog more than anything in the world, due to unfortunate circumstances, she lost her baby. She was devastated (like the GownChick). She kept looking at the negative side of the situation, and spent her time dewelling on all the sad things by focussing her attention on chat groups (by herself at home) - not the best environment to be in when you are feeling down. This woman never recovered and now lives like a recluse - something I don't wish the Gownchick to go thru. My second issue regards all of us dog owners. I have seen and looked after dogs which have been left for dead and abused because of digging a hole, chewing a shoe, and in some case doing nothing at all. I get worried when I hear or read about cases where a dog has done something and then a comment to the likes of 'no more dogs!' is used. I LOVE these canine babies... but we need to remember that they are still dogs. It doesn't matter how much we humanise them, they still can revert back to instincts - some responsibility needs to be placed back on us humans to not place our pets in these situations. I've seen and heard of too many dogs being sentenced to death because of situations that were totally avoidable. So I think I have every right to concern myself with the dog's interests. Its funny how this website is for dogs, but no comment was made about the poor dog she was minding!

We, as dog lovers do appreciate the pain of the loss of a dear pet, having experienced it ourselves. But while being upset about the loss, we focused all our energy in celebrating our beloved Boo by talking about the silly and wonderful things she did, the lives she affected in a positive manner and the beautiful memorial we created. Boo is still with us, growing and blooming every year as a beautiful magnolia (Little Gem) – we say good morning to her and our new canine baby enjoys the cooling breeze and sweet scents of her as she rest underneath Boo’s branches. My concern with your comments, being a lover of pets, is what happened to the poor dog you took into your care? From your comments you dropped it like a ‘hot scone’ – where was your love for the dog then? I see my comments as constructive, not negative – don’t sit around and fall into a depression, mourn by getting out there and celebrating your beloved Moses’ life.

Dear Janette, Having followed your sad story for a few days, and watching the flood of replies, I thought I'd throw my own in. We have all experienced loss in our lives, some of us more than others. I've lost loving pets (both canine and feathered), close family members and friends. It is always painful, but like any of the others have said, ‘time does ease the pain’. Your emails don’t just show a person in grief, but a person fighting with guilt. Looking for support in anonymous web users on a ‘Dog’ website will not ease your pain – I’m also a little concerned about the possible hatred you hold towards our doggy friends now – is this wise on a dog website? How exactly did this "old dog" get to your "young bird"? In my experience, birds are quite fast and keep away from dogs whenever possible, especially when feeling threatened. Furthermore, if you want to know how to get up in the morning, maybe you could turn to that bloke laying next to you - your husband. He must feel lost at the moment watching you give up on life – isn’t he an important partner that you should ‘live for’? I hope you don’t have kids! And finally, if you want the new bird to take to you, maybe you should try and be happy around it, rather spend all day crying in front of the computer. I’m sure in a positive and happy environment your ‘new feathered friend’ will love and cherish you as much as Moses. I know many will think me mean and harsh, but this constant display is despair will not help you recover; and neither will the numerous replies reminding you how sad you are. Think of the three wonderful years you shared with Moses, and not the last terrible week. Also think of the new and exciting future you will have with your new feathered friend.